The Monster Behind You – Living And Working With BPD

“It’s not you, you just don’t see the giant monster behind you that I’m reacting to”

Kellie Wagner, CEO @ Collective

What do you know about Borderline Personality Disorder? The answer to that question for most people is “not a lot”. So, why do we know so little compared to other mental illnesses like anxiety and depression? One reason is that BPD only occurs in around 1% of the population, so you’re less likely to run into someone who has it. The more likely reason is that that people working with BPD don’t speak up.

Popular culture likes to portray BPD in the most extreme way possible, for example, Glenn Close boiling a pet rabbit in the movie Fatal Attraction. If that was the first thing someone might remember if you said “I have BPD”, would you go around telling people?

In this episode of Silent Superheroes, Kellie shares some of her personal experiences working with BPD, the tools she uses to manage it, and some of the ways it’s affected her career. Above all, we’ll learn that working BPD is manageable, and is compatible with forging a successful career.


  • Collective D&I Consultancy (website)
  • NIMH Overview of Borderline Personality Disorder (resource)
  • I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me by Jerold J Kreisman (book)
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy (resource)
  • BPD Family (organization)
  • Kellie’s social (LinkedIn)

Getting Support

Remember, the people you hear on Silent Superheroes are people talking about their personal experience living with, and managing, mental illness. For that reason, please consult with your care provider before making a change to your treatment approach.

It’s important to take your mental health seriously. Consequently, if you need to speak to someone you can call 1-800-273-8255, or text on 741741. Both provide 24×7 confidential counseling to people in the United States. Worldwide visit

To help others find the Silent Superheroes podcast please leave us a review on iTunes or your favorite podcasting service.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *